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Why Unimpressive Men Got Pretty Women

27 Feb 2012 

The Logic of Unimpressive Men Got Pretty Women

by:  Joshua 

ONCE I was asked this layman question or rather a common observaion, in essence, people used to question the ratonale of WHY many “normal” (unimpressive) men got away with pretty girls rather easily and, ironically many handsome  or able men married plain-jane?  The more acceptable reason is that plain-jane has plenty of other good qualities.

Obviously, there are quite many versions of answer to the question, in which they tend to deal with too much logics and whatever psychological and politically correct reasoning. 

I would like to point the way to the question-answer using two key words:  Hope and Responsive.  Most able men and good-looking guys don’t bother with that.

For those normal or unimpressive men (in the eyes of other men) who could pull it off with pretty girls, they possess a set of unique quality in which, pretty girls (for that matter,  most girls) take such quality very seriously.  Let me explain further…
Those lucky men might be rated by their same breed (other men) as unimpressive; but in dealing with women/girls, these men are very attentive in their relationship by providing lots of “hope” to their female counterpart.  Whether such “hope” (e.g. expressed intention) will be fulfilled eventually is another matter all together. Because women live in Hope and embrace Hope, albeit each has different levels of patience.  Interestingly, some women sticking to hope for very long time, with repeatedly new hopes been created.

Another critical effort offered by these men is “responsiveness”. They are responsive to “matters arising” from their woman/girl.  So whenever their girl(s) sounds off any irritation, these men respond quickly.  They kill the fire immediately. They never give a chance to accusation of infideliy!  Don’t you know that many broken marriages and divorce cases are linked to INFIDELITY.

So, handsome men need not blame and complaint about why less able or unimpressive men got away with pretty women/girls.  Learn harder next time, give lots of hope and be responsive.  You too, stand good chance courting impressive and pretty women. 


Last but not least, one must not abuse such quality (if he has got it) for his own good and self-fulfillment only. At the end of the day, some promises have to be fulfilled… regadless.  There’s still no complete free lunch out there.

Linsanity Is Just A Product of Mind Filter

25th Feb 2012  SAT

Regional News Extracts & Commentary

By:   Prof. Lin Ah Buck

My friends sent me this two news extracts, one from the Lion City and the other, Taiwan.

(1)  Everything Is Decoded Through Our Mind Filter  

 Media all over the world popularized Linsanity. The way i look at it, it is merely derived from basic Racist-oriented thinking as well as, the key element of Mind Filter.

Mind filter is a “layer of criterion based” filtering system embedded in our thinking process. This is largely developed from our family & cultural background as well as the education we received. In addition to that, supplemented by one’s life experiences.

Therefore, almost all commentaries about Linsanity (Jeremy Lin) are the derivatives of the Mind Filter.  Which is heavily based upon one’s internal criteria that filters off certain elements before forming conclusion. There isn’t any new angle from which one could highlight the story.  I would only treat this story of Linsanity as a pop culture product.


(2)  Stereotype Scenario  

This was a popular TV variety program in Taiwan.  The program usually features sexy pretty girls and women combined with magic shows and entertainment to attract viewership.

As if to make a difference, on this episode the program introduced a lady bodybuilder to exhibit her well-toned muscle and physic.

But to demonstrate how would Asian stereotype men respond to her, here’s a scenario posted for readers, “Would you marry this lady bodybuilder based on her appearance and following stats?” In that,

–  a graduate of philosophy from a reputable university in Europe,

–  age 28

–  works as manager for a reputable & international gym

–  Virgin (for those who think that this is the most important criteria)

Take a careful appreciation of the picture and give your answer, truthfully.  Wait a minute.  Asian stereotype men may be so surprized that there’s long-enough a queue lining up for the lady bodybuilder.

INSIGHTS OF LIN-SANITY By An American Professor



Part extracts of Prof. Zimmerman’s article on Lin-sanity phenomenon

Commentary by:  Eastcoast Picker
18th Feb 2012

What’s most telling here is this notion/rationale, “It’s not sufficient to earn near-perfect grades and test scores, or to excel at a musical instrument, or to win a science-fair contest….
But America’s elite universities don’t want too much of a good thing, if it ALL COMES FROM THE SAME RACIAL GROUP.”

I fully agree with Prof. Zimmrman in his final statement/calling:  “If you are Asian, our society says, excelling at school simply isn’t good enough. And that’s what I call Linsanity.”

This is an understanding of what advanced societies really need.  The myth of just because if one could study hard and score well in tests means the guy could handle all other things well is really a BS. 

Nevertheless, there’s still lack of fair play in common life’s encounters for Asians in the “land of promises”.  But, in comparison to other places outside Asia, USA remains a better choice for those who have dreams to pursue. Facts of life, to receive education in top US universities is of great value and many brilliant guys from Asia are still pushing hard to gain entry.

Jeremy Lin and Liao Hwa (廖化)


18 Feb 2012  SAT

More Commentary of Lin-sanity

by:   Chinese Scholar HWEE

The story begins with a Chinese classic literature “Romance of Three Kingdom”…

There was this general by the name of Liao Hwa (廖化) who was very low-key by nature. General Liao however, was deep in military knowledge and good in applying strategies on battle field.  Due to his low-key character, Liao was not assigned with important military campaigns most of the time.  But general Liao was patient yet determined in maintaining his macro perspective, be ready for sudden tasking.  It was ironic that many critical moments and turn of events were saved in the hands of general Liao; through his wits and decisiveness when he was called upon for important moments.

There are talents live for the moments… and there are talents who seize the moment.  General Liao and Jeremy Lin both share a common characteristic, that’s to be prepared for the moment. 

Those who read Chinese would enjoy the text story above  about general Liao Hwa’s moments captured in Romance of Three Kingdom.

Counting Your Fortune



17 Feb 2012  FRI

By: Roadside Picker (Johor Ah Beng)

Interesting Yet Common:  Life’s A Two-sided Coin

This was a piece of news from Singapore.  A man who was a  Fortune-teller by profession, gambled in a casino in Singapore and soon dropped dead upon winning for himself a “fortune” of S$5,000 from the House.  It could be due to a heart-attack (?) that took place in the midst of excitment.

The lesson learned is not about whether one should check his heart’s condition before betting in casino. 

The “rules of game” for fun indulgence remain Not To Take It Too Seriously.  However, most people tend to indulge in fun things far more seiously than those real serious things to them and their family or society.

The essence of a Chinese saying is that, “die for a mountain weight and not like a feather!”  (死有重于泰山, 轻于鸿毛。)
It remains an individual judgement of our readers regarding this incident of “$5000 worth of fun and excitment.” Just another question in relation to this incident in which some may ask, “who’s the winner?” or rather, “who’s the loser?”

Sudden Out-burst of Talent 横空出世



News Commentary

17 Feb 2012 FRI


Now even president Obama praised Lin-sanity on his extra-ordinary performance in sports. He says, “This is truly beyond basketball sport. It’s a phenomenon… “

Such a sudden out-burst of great performance/talent fits well in American society, especially so in highly competitive environment. This is an arena that tends to overlook slow and gradual incremental imprvements. No one gives notice to very consistent (but gradual) performance. Wall Street is the best illustrated example of America’s “go for the sky” kind of mentality and common expectations. 

The phenomenon of Lin-sanity exactly fits well with such formula.  But there’s nothing wrong with the equation at all.  To break new ground, one has to produce (cre
ate) the “energy” (form and content) that’s desparately needed by the society he lives in, at the right time.  Jeremy Lin trained very hard all these years and recognizes the time has come for him to show that Sudden Out-burt of talent on the court and in front of the crowd (and media). 

In Chinese classic phrase, it is called “横空出世” (heng-kong-chu-shi) !!!

Singapore News Extracts

16th Feb 2012

Interesting News Extracts

Commentary by:  Roadside Picker

Creative Technology Attacking China Market (Tablet)

(Hopefully this time they know exactly what to do… This company has been giving too much hope and delivering too little, over the past decade… maybe this time around they finally found their path. I trust the Koreans more these days.)

Same Story, Different Era

(The Chinese classical story “Romance of Three Kingdom” describes about the famous strategist Zhu Ge Liang went ahead to execute one of his best generals, because the general took things for granted and ran wild.  Singapore’s Workers Party apparently has done just the same, on one of their best members of parliament in order to establish the party credibility).

“Super Lin” Going Strong…

(This happens in USA, not in Singapore. But, the success story of Lin-sanity applies to everywhere on earth.  Some say the Lion City needs such a miracle to inspire its population… true or false?)


Singapore Property Analysts Wrong Again…

(Just last month, almost all property analysts in the Lion City commented that the island’s property market would be slump with additional stamp duty imposed by the govt. Some even blind-folded and alarmed that the property prices might be down by 30%!  Before they wake-up, last month’s property sales have increased >2 folds. Guys, don’t ever believe in property analysts’ projection.  Just believe in the following, i.e. key borrowing (or mortgage) interest rates and stock market rally movements.  There’s no credit crunch here my friends, not yet.)

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